A Time to Start Writing Again

A Time to Start Writing Again


It has been almost a year since the last time I wrote a blog and a lot of things had come to pass.

So I was engaged, moved to a different country, and got married to the (ehem!) man of my dreams.

Now what? Hmm… I went through a lot of adjustments. A huge change in the community, environment, and lifestyle. A new life with a husband. A state at which I could not work yet that makes me cringe and used to make me feel like a worthless parasite. A new career, which is being a plain housewife and mother – used to be a dream so it is now a dream come true but at some point I sort of hated it (speaks forth a lot of other things, huh? Lol).

Moreover, I started feeling a little bit settled after going through the gruesome pangs of adjustments. Sounds exaggerated but no, it’s not.

With my Choleric-Melancholy temperament of which Choleric is more dominant, I thought that moving to a new country (especially that it is a ‘first world country’ from a ‘developing country’) would somehow be easy for me. To my surprise, it isn’t.

Perhaps it is best for me to write about some stories of the dilemmas I faced and share those that I think I could sometime soon.

It has been more than seven months. Looking back, it has been quite a long and adventurous journey. I can say that it is the most courageous step that I took in my life. Had a lot of fun and a lot of tears, moments when I thought I was getting crazy because the fusing of different cultures deep within my soul has been wounding me. Not because the foreign culture is wrong or bad but simply because it seemed like dissecting my inner being and putting in foreign stuff in me while trying to take away stuff that I have been living with all my life.

Well, if I ponder and face the reality, I got a lot more benefits than sufferings. With a change of perspective, I started seeing how purposefully I am set to be wherever I am at this time. It was just overwhelming for a woman who had been comfortably confined to her own world.

Stories to come!

A Time to be Married

It has been half a year since I last updated my blog and almost a year after I wrote about the “Time to Love Again.”

Now, I am in a new season in my life. Meeting the answer to my prayers, that man that the Lord has been preparing for me, made this season real. Oh yes, it is the season of romance… and yes, I have been engaged.

Too bad I have just posted about this now. Got so occupied with various things, but better late than never. I am overwhelming with joy to talk about this exciting season in my life journey. It is time, it is time!

The long wait is over. I have met the love of my life. That one I had been singing “Somewhere Out There” to. That man I have been praying for and calling forth to be that man that the Lord has created him to be, especially as my Adam. That man who is the complete package of my wishlists for a husband. Not that I wrote some lists but that the Lord acknowledged all those simple wishes at various times, and then seemed like He wrote them all down and gave me this wonderful surprise in McCoy Edward “Mick” Looney.


Mick is a wonderful surprise, an amazing blessing. He is a timely gift to my then turning gray world. He made me see life colors again. His coming to my life made me believe that the Lord keeps His promises and that He will truly fulfill them.

I will surely write more about this! But for now, let this be just the start of this exciting announcement.


Time to get a Domestic Helper

Motherhood is truly one of the most rewarding careers if not the most rewarding. It a state at which we women take care of a young one, guiding his or her to be the man or woman God created them to be in the future. No matter how rewarding, there are also times when it is so tiring and challenging. Leading us to the time to get a Domestic Helper.

In my case as a single parent, I really need to spare myself from the daunting tasks of house chores so that I can focus on client work and getting more projects. Not to mention being my son’s supervisor as he is with Home Schooling by this time.

I used to have a maid or nanny from time to time. So far so good, and sometimes I think that I do not really need one. However, being the father and the mother for the household at the same time really consumes my energy. I may work at home, and wherever as long as I have good Internet Connection but working and doing stuff around the house at the same time is not really a good idea. Plus, taking care of my dear son. Whoa! I can only do my best!

Yes, privacy is at stake when you have your domestic helper living with you. That is a part of the package. But it also gives you more freedom in different areas. You have less things to do, that could be those that really drains you. You have more time for the things that you need to focus on.

Writing these thoughts make me think that it is really time for me to get a domestic helper. Well, I will see how I can get one through HelperChoice. I have heard they have a lot of domestic maids and helpers in their database and they are willing to work around the world. Hope to have a helper who is trustworthy and sincere.

Time to Love Yourself?

time to love yourselfRiding in a bus on my way home, I hear Whitney Houston singing “The Greatest Love of All.” Seems like a good timing to hear it. As it says that “learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all,” it made me ponder on the Truth within that statement.

What do you feel when somebody says that he or she loves his self or her self? How about when somebody tells you that you must learn to love yourself.

Does it make you feel unusually awkward? If yes, have you thought why and how that statement gives you such feeling?

It seems like loving one’s self has been stereotyped as being selfish that results to being cruel to others. Like if I am to say that I love myself, I may sound like an arrogant prideful woman who only cares about herself.

But then, why was it written that we are to “love your neighbors as you love yourself” if loving ourselves is not good?

What really goes with loving myself, yourself? What is the Truth in it?

it is written to love others as you love yourself

Let us look at how Love is defined. It is written that

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” (2 Corinthians 13 NIV)

Now let me ask you the following questions:

-          Have you been patient with yourself?

-          Are you kind to yourself?

-          Do you let other people’s boastings and pride affect you negatively?

-          Do you honor yourself? Or have you thought of how to honor yourself?

-          Do you think of others’ welfare knowing that the good things that happen to them will also affect you positively? Instead of just going for what is good for you that harm others at the same time?

-          Can you say that you do not get easily angered with yourself?

-          Do you cross out your transgressions after you have confessed and asked the Lord for His mercy and forgiveness?

-          Do you rejoice in the Truths revealed in your life and not allow evil to reign in your life?

-          Do you even think of protecting yourself?

-          Do you trust yourself?

-          Do you hope for good things to come to you?

-          Does perseverance and the courage to move forward after a mistake sound good to you?

-          Do you not fail to give yourself another chance when you did something wrong?

God is Love

It may appear to be very selfish to answer “yes” to all these questions but what does the Bible say about it? How do you think you can

“love others” in the right way if you do not “love yourself” the proper way?

Do you remember that God is Love? That in the real sense of loving, God is there and it is Holy. When we love ourselves, we feast on God Himself who lives in us, through us, for us. Experiencing God, having a relationship with our Creator, and learning to communicate with Him is the root of loving ourselves. For it is in this connection that we learn about our purpose, our value. This gives life its essence.

Can you have a little break from the busy-ness of life and ponder about your significance?

How you have been treating others may be the way you have also been treating yourself. Perhaps it is not about being a “bad person” as people tell you that you are. However, it is just realizing that you are a creation of God, fearfully and wonderfully made. That God has plans for you, to prosper you and not to harm you. That you are loved. That you have a Father, who is the Creator of the universe.

time to love yourself

That your life is significant no matter what situation you are currently in.

Have you thought of God becoming flesh (human)? Who came to earth the way humans do. Who suffered – was persecuted, bruised,

Isn’t this one splendid reason for you to love yourself (as written in the Word)? So that you will also know how to Love others.  wounded, humiliated, and blasphemed. Who died. Who did this all for you. So that in His resurrection you can live with Him. And He has resurrected! All you need to do is to accept all of these that He (God Himself) has done for you and be forgiven of your sins (and wrong decisions, mistakes). Then live in a relationship with Him.

Isn’t it time to learn to Love yourself? To accept that you are a creation who is fearfully and wonderfully made. That you have limitations and that you can only do your best as God does the rest.

Isn’t it time not to be so hard on yourself? Stop beating yourself up for your past mistakes. Start looking at what you have learned from it and move forward in life. Release the bitterness that you have been carrying deep in your heart through forgiveness. These are heavy stuff that makes it difficult for you to take one step forward. Allow God to touch the wounds of your soul and heal them. Experience God’s love where you have

you are loved

been wounded.
Isn’t it time to forgive yourself? To let go of the guilt and shame. To allow God to take them away and make all things work together for you as you love Him. To see that what the enemy has intended you for evil, God will make it the other way around – for your good.

Know that as you love yourself, you love God and one of His most wonderful creations – that is YOU!



Time to plead – Guilty or Not Guilty?

Time to PleadWitnessing court hearings and arraignments in court made me realize how we plead “guilty” or not “guilty” in our lives.

An accused goes through arraignment where he or she would plead guilty or not. If the plea is “guilty,” then a settlement is still possible. If the plea is “not guilty,” then the case would undergo complete trial where verdict would be given in the end.

There are times when we know that we are guilty of committing some crimes or sins, even just small ones but instead of admitting it and asking for God’s grace and forgiveness, we choose to stand and say that we are “not guilty.” However, as we do that, we also choose to stand against God who sees and knows everything.

So we go through “full trial” supposedly not for conviction but to lead us to repentance and finally plead “guilty” and ask for the Lord’s forgiveness, which is available to us. But, as we choose to harden our hearts, we would NEVER receive this gift of forgiveness that is available to us.

Then we keep on ‘praying’ and complain why God seems silent and distant, blaming Him for allowing “bad things” to come our way. But we still stand tall and proud, proclaiming the lie that we are not guilty of such sins that we truly committed.

Reading through Zechariah 7:8-13 (NIV), we will get a picture of how the Lord would not listen to us if we choose to stick to our stubborn hearts and practices.

And the word of the Lord came again to Zechariah. “This is what the Lord Almighty said: ‘Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another. Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the foreigner or the poor. Do not plot evil against each other.'”

But they refused to pay attention; stubbornly turned their backs and covered their ears. They made their hearts as hard as flint and would not listen to the law or to the words that the Almighty had sent by his Spirit through the earlier prophets. So the Lord Almighty was very angry.

“When I called, they did not listen; so when they called, I would not listen,’ says the Lord Almighty. ‘I scattered them with a whirlwind among all the nations, where they were strangers. The land they left behind them was so desolate that no one traveled through it. This is how they made the pleasant land desolate.'”

So what are we wailing about? What are we complaining about when we know that we have wronged somebody and we are not willing to take our steps for possible peace between us and the offended party? We say that God is unfair when we accuse Him that He allows other people to treat us wrong, but what are we really doing? How do we treat the poor? The broken? The fatherless? The wounded ones? The people who hurt us?

Are we standing in the light of Truth or under the veils of Lies and Deception?

It is true that grace and forgiveness is available to us but that is only after we admit that we have committed such sins, big or small. This confession is an act that says we want to be free from the claws of sin that leads to further destruction up to death, that we are choosing to be in the Love of God and stay safe in his hands no matter what the consequences of our past would bring us.

The more we harden our hearts against the Lord, the more we will be sunk so low. The Parable of the Prodigal Son explains this. But as we make a decision to go back “home” we would surely be welcomed back and cleansed from any unrighteousness. Then all things would work together for our good as we choose to love the Lord, who is the One who would take our shame and guilt away.